Why do people love modes

Schema Therapy

Schema therapy is an innovative further development of behavioral therapy, which integrates different therapy directions in a clear and systematic way:
Cognitive behavioral therapy, gestalt therapy, transactional analysis, psychodrama, depth psychological theory, attachment theory, hypnotherapy and also the latest findings in neurobiology.
This method was used by Jeffrey E. Young Developed in the 1990s to change stubborn and dysfunctional “life traps”. A "life trap" is, for example, the persistent feeling of inferiority, the conviction that you are not lovable or the omnipresent feeling that you always have to work very hard in life. Life traps are characterized by the fact that even contrary experiences (other people assure us that they love us; our performance is good) are unable to change our convictions. The "nagging" feeling remains ...
We learned such structures through unfavorable experiences in childhood and these determine the “glasses” through which we look at ourselves, other people and the world. They determine how we feel and how we choose to act. If we have developed dysfunctional patterns, these have a decisive influence on our quality of life and on our relationships with people who are close to us.
Young also refers to "life traps" as Schemes. They were created through experiences in our brain in the form of neural circuits downright “burned in” and are able to determine our thinking, feeling and acting like an autopilot.
In other words, "life traps" work like a chain of lights in the Christmas tree: situations (e.g. a dispute with a partner) trigger the burning of the lights like a switch and we are automatically guided by our basic beliefs.
Such a "state" is also known as mode, e.g. "the angry Peter" or "the sad Luisa". Schemes and modes arise if persistent or repeated in childhood basic needsof the child (e.g. after recognition, appreciation) were ignored or injured.

 

The first step in therapeutic work consists in making people aware of their own schemata and modes. Only then will they be able to get out of the automated mechanisms. As the work continues, the underlying unsatisfied and injured needs are identified and people learn in a functional adult way to satisfy their needs.
Various therapy techniques are used for this purpose:
Schemas are based on certain, initially unconscious feelings. These are through emotion-activating strategies (e.g. through imagination, chair and mode work) and people are again able to feel the basic needs behind them.
Cognitive techniques are used to get a clearer view of things, to be able to keep a "clear head". This helps to see situations more realistically and no longer just through the glasses of dysfunctional beliefs (e.g. "I am not worthy to be loved").
Behavioral therapeutic methods (e.g. behavioral experiments, role plays) then help to enable the implementation of knowledge in concrete action in everyday life.
Practicing all therapeutic strategies ensures that new ways of thinking, acting and feeling become more and more natural in everyday life.
That is very important for that therapeutic relationship. The therapist offers warm-hearted support and is very authentically present - as a person.
The effectiveness of schema therapy has been proven by various studies. If the schema therapy is embedded in a behavioral treatment for diagnosed mental disorders, the costs are usually covered by the health insurance company.