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Courtesy: Importance, Important Rules, and Tips

A little politeness has never hurt anyone. Nevertheless, one often looks for virtue in vain. Instead, they prefer to extend their elbows, everyone is next to himself and there seems to be no time for politeness with all the time pressure and competitiveness. Not correct! Courtesy should never be neglected. It is an important interpersonal factor, and polite people have other benefits. In addition: politeness is not difficult and shows itself in many small gestures. We show what constitutes polite behavior, which rules of politeness you should heed and give tips with which you can improve your politeness ...

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Definition and origin: what does politeness mean?

Politeness is one of the manners and describes a considerate behavior characterized by respect, a friendly demeanor, openness and courtesy. Those who are polite show good behavior, are nice to other people and are characterized by their open-minded manner. For many, courtesy has become the epitome of good manners. Other terms are sometimes used synonymously for politeness. These include…

  • Good nursery
  • Decency
  • Kindness
  • Well-behaved
  • thoughtfulness
  • etiquette
  • Fine morals

Nowadays, politeness is generally expected to be a good way of dealing with people. Originally, the term actually comes from the aristocratic and royal court. Politeness therefore means behaving as is customary in a noble court. Accordingly, it became a description of particularly good, noble and noble behavior - a behavior with which you can impress even in the highest circles.

The main rules of courtesy

Courtesy is mostly perceived as an overall picture. It is the entire demeanor of a person, the behavior towards other people that is perceived as polite and courteous. Behind this, however, there are numerous, sometimes small, actions and properties. We have listed the most important rules of courtesy for you, with which you are guaranteed to always make a good impression and be polite:

  • Please and thank you
    From an early age, children are taught that in their upbringing You're welcome and thanks belong to the good form of politeness. Unfortunately, this is often forgotten in everyday life. One often waits in vain for a polite request and thank you. The two little words should go without saying. Don't just ask and demand, ask verbatim. And when someone does something for you, express their gratitude.
  • Greetings and goodbyes
    A clear rule of politeness is that when you meet someone you know, give them a friendly greeting. It's very rude to just walk past someone you know without saying a word. A short one Hello a smile is enough. The same applies to a farewell. Politeness demands that you say goodbye and not just leave.
  • Say sorry
    Mistakes happen, sometimes you are wrong or upset someone. It is polite to apologize. Don't pretend nothing happened. When an apology is appropriate, you should have the decency and the magnitude to offer it.
  • Pay attention
    In this day and age, this rule of courtesy is more important than ever. Your attention should be focused on the people you are with - not the smartphone or TV. Just looking at your cell phone over dinner is the height of rudeness.
  • Prove good manners
    Politeness also includes good eating manners. No smacking or loud chewing, no slurping drinks, no poking around in the food. This shows you how to treat each other with respect, especially when eating together. Those who cannot behave themselves here usually show little politeness in other situations as well.
  • Pay attention to body language
    Body language can be an important aspect of politeness - or it can be very rude. Picking your nose, holding your hands in your pockets or turning your back on someone you are talking to is very impolite. The same applies, for example, when rolling one's eyes.
  • Be considerate
    There are tons of ways to be considerate. Avoiding loud noises in order not to disturb others or to offer other people a seat is perceived as particularly polite.
  • Note forms of expression
    Well-groomed language is a cornerstone of courtesy. Cursing, yelling, and using wild expressions have nothing to do with polite behavior. The Siezen continues to be perceived as particularly polite.

Good reasons to be more polite

Actually, there shouldn't be any reasons to behave politely in interpersonal contact. Respectful and courteous interaction with one another should be enough incentive for the necessary degree of politeness. Unfortunately, since politeness is all too often lacking, we have collected some good reasons to be more polite.

  • They lead by example
    A particularly big advantage of politeness: Those who are polite themselves are usually treated the same way. You set a good example and can help ensure that you are more polite. You can only expect the same from others if your own behavior is correct.
  • You make contacts more easily
    Make contacts, get to know other people or even just start a conversation? You won't get very far without being polite. If you are rude, you will be shunned and left out. This applies to private life as well as to work.
  • You increase your chances of success
    Courtesy can be a real success factor. Polite behavior is expected and required at work - both when dealing with colleagues and superiors, but above all with customers. Being rude in professional life disturbs the working atmosphere and pisses off customers.

Tips for more courtesy

Courtesy is primarily taught through parenting and learned at a young age. How people treat one another in one's own environment also plays a role. The more politeness a person experiences, the more likely they are to reflect the behavior itself. However, politeness does not always work. The first step should of course be to heed the rules of courtesy mentioned above. In addition, we have collected a few simple tips for more courtesy:

  • Make sure you are in a good mood
    When you're in a bad mood, being polite is a lot more difficult. You get annoyed more quickly, you may get wrong in your tone or you don't pay so much attention to your behavior. Keep yourself in a good mood and you will be immediately more polite to others.
  • Listen to others
    Often it is enough just to really listen to others in order to behave politely. The undivided attention and reaction to what has been said shows the person you are speaking to: you have fully concentrated on them, deal with their concerns respectfully and respond to them.
  • Treat others with a smile
    Hardly anything exudes as much politeness from the start as an authentic and open smile. Get in the habit of always approaching other people with a smile on your face and you will be perceived as particularly polite.

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October 9, 2020Author: Nils Warkentin

Nils Warkentin studied business administration at the Justus Liebig University in Giessen. In the career bible, he is devoted to topics related to studies, career entry and everyday office life.

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