Why is belief important in a relationship

Love for life - a dream? Not if the majority of Germans have their way. According to a study by the Allensbach Institute for Demoscopy, two thirds of those surveyed are optimistic: They believe that you can find a partner with whom you will be happy for the rest of your life - in other words, eternal love. For the majority, marriage is by no means a thing of the past, and a happy, stable relationship is an essential goal in life.

The aim of the representative survey was to examine how important a partnership is for Germans and how they imagine a relationship. A third of the respondents aged 16 and over have no partner. However, just under half of the singles are satisfied with their relationship status. 30 percent would rather have a partner. Only a minority of singles, ten percent, live alone out of conviction.

The vast majority of those firmly in love are satisfied with their partnership. 83 percent describe their current relationship as "happy" or "very happy", only nine percent say they are clearly negative. At first glance, this balance is in striking contrast to the high divorce rate of 40 percent. However, the two could also be related: "The willingness to come to terms with an unhappy relationship is much lower today than it used to be," says Renate Köcher from the Allensbach Institute.

Belief in love also depends on the relationship status: 71 percent of those who are firmly in love believe in love for life, but only 46 percent of singles. And although 69 percent of those who live in a stable partnership are sure that they have found a partner for life, being single exerts a certain attraction: 31 percent admit that it would appeal to them to be alone again . This is especially true for young men.

Harmony instead of passion

Interestingly, even those who describe their partnership as predominantly happy are skeptical whether they have already found the right person. After all, every or every fourth person wonders whether there isn't a more suitable choice. The doubts arise less from dissatisfaction with the existing partnership than from the conviction that there are alternatives that might promise more happiness.

A third of the entire population is convinced that there are so many opportunities today to make new acquaintances that you can never be sure whether you have really found the partner who suits you best - so whoever has the choice has apparently the agony.

But what keeps a partnership alive? The survey revealed a pronounced need for closeness and as many similarities as possible among the respondents. A good three quarters of the population thinks nothing if "he" and "she" have different hobbies, and a common bedroom is important for a clear majority.

"To cope with everyday life together like good friends and to support each other is more important for a happy partnership than the great passion" - about two thirds of the respondents are convinced and put harmony above sexual fulfillment.

The older the respondents are, the more eroticism and sexuality take a back seat. Beyond the age of thirty, happy sexual relationships become less and less important. In addition, up to the mid-40s - and particularly pronounced up to the end of 20 - the idea that in a partnership the most important thing is the emotional relationship. After the age of 45, Germans place more value on living together in harmony and solidarity.

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