What kind of food cannot be described as disgusting

Now it's official, I'm gross because I'm still silent!


Written by Marry2011 on August 31, 2012, 9:02 pm

Hello mothers,
I just have to get rid of my frustration and disappointment here!
I had a child at the end of last year and always breastfed as needed, there were no pacifiers and bottles (I tried, but my child is of the opinion: breast milk only and exclusively comes from the mother; dummies are also choked away!)
In all questions of life, breastfeeding took place first!
If in doubt, put it on first!
Ergo: We are still breastfeeding! Still happy! Always everywhere and of course!
Many of my friends and acquaintances also have early days. J. Have a baby and I've never been too shy, lazy or tired to help you with all breastfeeding questions!
I rummaged through the Internet (mainly this forum or Biggi's * PRAISE TO THIS POINT *) looking for good arguments, theses or studies or experience regarding cluster feeding and sleep behavior of young infants! I loaned my breast pump and my spare sling as a matter of course. Helped putting on and taking care of cracked nipples!
In short, I was there for everyone .... I just didn't rate the breastfeeding relationship as superficial!
And I was happy when a happy baby and a relaxed mom was the result.
Now the last of this "circle" has weaned ....
And today I guess I should FINALLY do this! After all, my child is no longer a baby and that would be disgusting!
Not to mention the fact that I prevent my child from sleeping through the night and I can't let go ...

AND NOW YOU'RE COMING!

 

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answer fromSandyyy on August 31, 2012, 9:14 pm

Don't worry, you're not the only one who's gross. Me too. I gave birth on January 11th, 2012, still almost full of silence and I hear that over and over again. But that doesn't matter to me now. Let them talk

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answer fromTine1 on August 31, 2012, 9:20 pm

What was your answer?

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answer fromTimbi on August 31, 2012, 9:47 pm

i think it's so strange that people here have such experiences again and again. i have been quiet since december and no one has ever said anything like that to me!

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answer fromApydia on August 31, 2012, 9:57 pm

Mhhh, nobody has called me disgusting, but many I know suddenly become very diplomatic in their statements when they notice that I am still silent or prefer not to say anything more.

I used to think that when my child can walk, breastfeeding is over. My son is now 17 months old and I still breastfeed, and not infrequently, even during the day when we are out and about

If I'm not careful, he doesn't just come running to me, he also unpacks the milk dispenser himself.

But, this one time, I don't really care about the opinion of others, as long as it's OK for my son and me, let's go on. So keep your head up and don't get angry about it.

greeting
Apydia

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answer fromheini1712 on August 31, 2012, 10:00 p.m.

Hello,
I have been breastfeeding since December 9th, 2009. Never heard of anything. Except that my osteopath asked me about it once about soft tissue and such. Otherwise never experienced anything negative. My almost 3-year-old only quiets to sleep in the evening, of course, only my husband and my son can see that ;-)

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answer fromWinter Child09 on August 31, 2012, 10:16 pm


I also still breastfeed. My mouse is now 9 months old and I am guaranteed not to stop breastfeeding anytime soon, why should I force myself to wean when it can be easier? In addition, the little one is currently practicing pulling up and standing - I would like to have at least a little "baby".
I don't understand why so many people stop breastfeeding so quickly? It's not a burden. We just have breast and porridge or finger food at the same time.
The argument about staying asleep doesn't work for me either: my little one slept through the night relatively quickly, while my older one asked for his cocoa or milk for a long time after weaning at night.
Put your ears open and do what you and your child feel best about.
Lg winter child

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It's really bitter

answer fromhuehnchen69 on August 31, 2012, 10:20 pm

As far as I can tell, something like that usually comes from some childless acquaintances, parents-in-law or the like.

But to be told that by someone you've worked your ass off for in support of breastfeeding is really nasty.
I hope you can still get over it well.

Best regards,
Sabine

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answer fromlaranina on August 31, 2012, 10:36 pm

I still breastfeed, sleeplessness and comforting calm, and yeah, I stand by it, my son is now 15 months and as long as he still wants, we will continue to do it. He doesn't know bottled milk, tried it once (as an emergency solution when I was working) but no, he didn't take it. If I am now at work in the evening and Felix cannot have my breast then, there is normal cow's milk.

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answer fromMaSchie28 on August 31, 2012, 11:04 pm

Huhu,

jaaaaaa, you are really disgusting ... uh, ashamed of you! You already have such a big child and are still breastfeeding it!

I find it really sad that you have invested a lot of time and effort and now get such slogans pressed into it. It's a shame, isn't it? But what do you want to do? Correct! Weier breastfeed as long as you 2 think it's good!

Lg Manu with breastfeeding child 2 years

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answer fromFoxl on August 31, 2012, 11:13 pm

Hi,

I also find calling someone disgusting because of breastfeeding "honorable", that would also make me quite angry. But what is it to others? If you and your child are satisfied after all, you shouldn't care. As the doctors say: let's talk. Smile mildly and turn your back on them. I breastfed our big daughter for well over 2 years (when No. 2 was already there) and No. 2 I now breastfeed for 10 months in the other direction). If you are happy with it, you have to stand above it, if in doubt, don't even go into it. You don't need permission from others and that's that. This is of course not easy, but I always kept it that way that I honestly asked if I still answered quietly and that ended any further discussion for me. My girlfriend also said at the end of the day, quietly so that we can finally do something in the evening. An emphatic "no, why should I" then sufficed.
Don't let yourself be put off and take it as it is, there are just stupid people and unfortunately stupidity never dies. Nod gently and regret her. I keep my fingers crossed for you and have fun with your little sunshine.

best regards
Elke

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answer fromPrachtmaedchen82 on 09/01/2012, 12:12 am

I also often and happily breastfeed my little one, she was born in early January. In the meantime, some in the environment react rather cautiously when they hear or see that this is the case, I think that shouldn't interest me.

You have to learn to "listen away", that's also very difficult for me and I am not yet practicing getting upset and wasting energy on people who are not worth it at this moment. Do not get annoyed and do what is best for you!

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answer fromLinchen84 on September 1st, 2012, 7:55 am

Unbelievable!! Your child is not even a year! Mine was born at the end of January and of course I'm still breastfeeding !! It would never occur to me to stop and switch to bottles! Why should I do this to myself when everything is going so well?

I do not understand at all! My circle of friends with babies aged 4-7 months is already eagerly discussing: "How do I get my baby to finally take the bottle? ... Now I finally want to have some time for myself again and go out in the evening ... now that's enough for me! .... etc. "

But I won't let that deter me. I really enjoy breastfeeding and will continue to do so for longer.

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Yesterday fell asleep while breastfeeding, here finally answer; 0)

answer fromMarry2011 on 09/01/2012, 8:18 am

Hi and good morning,

So the question what I answered fits very well:

I was so perplexed that I couldn't answer anything!

Sure I continue to breastfeed!
Listening to that, I have to train hard!
It quickly became clear to me that it was not me who were weaning, but my son! We also want to tinker with No. 2 soon and I'm already looking forward to the tandem adventure!
Who knows ..... maybe there is an increase in disgusting

I am not sorry for all the heart and soul, I am sorry that I am friends with these people and still blindly judge them. THAT actually hurts me most!

In any case, thank you for letting me get rid of everything!
Have a nice quiet day!

AL
Marry

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answer fromS @ lly. on September 1st, 2012, 8:30 a.m.

My mouse is only about 5 months and then almost everyone says: how, you are still breastfeeding ???? !!!!!

Dreadful!!!

But calling something disgusting is really hard! Someone would have to give me the spell

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answer fromStiorra on 09/01/2012, 11:11 am

sometimes an opinion of a not (yet) breastfeeding woman.
Well, I have no idea how long you usually breastfeed like this or not, but I think it gets strange when you put a child in kindergarten on your breast ... so that's my opinion.
Otherwise, every mom should do as she wants and can. Isn't it okay to breastfeed for a long time, especially when it works out so well. There are enough women who have animal problems with breastfeeding.
On the other hand, you have to respect those who stop breastfeeding after 6 months, for whatever reason.

Find it terrible that you - no matter how you handle it - is constantly attacked from somewhere. It's worse than the Crusades ...

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answer fromquirlijane on 09/01/2012, 11:55 a.m.

That's really stupid of your 'friends' and sad at the same time!

Unfortunately, in today's society there has been far too much fooling around, long-term silencers are automatically considered disgusting and the trend is NOT to breastfeed.
I can't understand mothers who refuse to breastfeed from the outset, because after all, it is part of having a baby! If for some reason it doesn't work that way or something like that, ok, then you should stop breastfeeding, but at least you tried!
However, I cannot understand the mothers who are 'long' (according to my personal feeling that everything is longer than 1 - 1 1/2 years - so to say so generally; o)) COMPLETELY. Because in my opinion you inhibit social development (independent eating etc.) * DO NOT BEAT ME * who knows, maybe I am already a victim of society and therefore think so. Regardless ... in principle I would not advise anyone when to stop breastfeeding, because everyone should decide for themselves.
It didn't work out for me with the first one, was only able to breastfeed for 4 weeks, now it works great and I completely breastfeed from the start and am infinitely happy about it. my mouse is only 9 weeks now .. so i still have 'time' and I'm curious how long i will breastfeed .. because actually i want to start eating complementary food again from the 5th month like with the big one ... but now i think i will I'll see when Püppi is ready and give her the time ...

take a look .. maybe I'll find myself disgusting soon; o)

Hold on, acmh what YOU think is right and let the others chat!

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answer fromMaSchie28 on 09/01/2012, 12:13 pm

Well, 1-1.5 years of completely breastfeeding is really the exception.

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answer fromMamaundMini86 on 09/01/2012, 12:32 p.m.

I know! I haven't been labeled disgusting yet, but people keep asking me how long I want to breastfeed! My son is now 4 months old!
What do people think women have breasts for? Just to make the men hot? no, just not, but to feed the child! The cow does the same with her calf! And that's normal! Sorry for the comparison! But that really upsets me!
The fast weaning only comes through the industry so that they can sell their follow-on milk and their glasses and so on! Who actually came up with the idea? Before that existed, it was taken for granted that a mother should feed her child! Nowadays everyone can make their own decisions!

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answer fromOttilie 2 on September 1st, 2012, 1:28 pm

Well, I fully breastfed for exactly 18 months. If I had never thought before, then I didn't care and I just let my daughter do it. She only ate when she came to a crib, but before that she always had the opportunity to eat with us. I am glad that I was able to breastfeed so much for so long, because without breastfeeding she would have been totally emaciated. I don't think that it was inhibited from a developmental point of view ("learning to eat" ... that's rubbish ... it just works out at some point, you don't have to teach it, that's a basic need). She just took her time.
According to my lactation consultant, it is possible to breastfeed fully for 2-3 years. But I don't know any source for it. I would be interested in what is 'intended by nature'. We now know that the natural duration of breastfeeding takes place between 2 and 7 years [Dettwyler] ... but does anyone know a text about the natural duration of full breastfeeding?

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answer fromKissinger on September 1st, 2012, 1:50 pm

I also find it disgusting exaggerated, but I am of the opinion that at some point breastfeeding will be good.

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answer fromMaSchie28 on 09/01/2012, 2:11 pm

Yes of course it will end at some point ... or do you know an adult who is still breastfed?

When "sometime" to sit, mother and child are welcome to decide for themselves!

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answer fromMissy27 on September 1st, 2012, 2:18 pm

Well what do you mean when you are pregnant and breastfeeding, how "disgusting" that is!

The fact that children 1-1.5 years of age are fully breastfed is not due to the fact that the mother absolutely wants it and withholds food from the child! And I speak from experience. If the child doesn't want to eat, there's not much you can do as a mother.

I also don't know what is disgusting about breastfeeding "older" children, it usually doesn't happen in public. I also find formulations such as "put on" or "the mother is breastfeeding" wrong. At the latest by the age of 1.5, as a mother, you have nothing to do with breastfeeding, the child breastfeeds itself!

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answer fromMaSchie28 on September 1st, 2012, 2:20 pm

Missy, that's the disgusting thing about it - the child can walk and serve itself ... ugh!

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answer fromMaSchie28 on September 1st, 2012, 2:20 pm

Missy, that's the disgusting thing about it - the child can walk and serve itself ... ugh!

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answer fromOttilie 2 on September 1st, 2012, 2:22 pm

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answer frommamame70 on September 1st, 2012, 3:34 pm

"Disgusting" is really an outrage!
Apart from that, especially at the beginning of crawling age, Mumi contains an extra portion of antibodies, because that's when the baby comes into contact with real dirt for the first time."Disgusting" in the sense of hygiene is more likely to be bottle-fed food!

My really bad answer to this comment would be: "Well, I find rubber teats instead of a mother's breast as disgusting as fellatio with a condom!"
That would probably end the acquaintance

It's good that you don't let yourself be deterred, it's just a shame about your troubles for these people!

(Personally, I find it really pointless to artificially replace the breast at some point while the child still needs to suckle.)

best regards
Mechthild with Gretchen on her chest

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answer fromjulle1 on September 1st, 2012, 6:33 pm

envy of your friends ?! It's just uncomfortable when someone is different from the group, and you have to try to adapt to that. it happens in women’s circle, preferring to make bad things and bitch. if they were accepting, they would continue to like you, with or without styling. But something is bothering you, maybe your experiences with abstinence were just not as nice and problem-free as you put them to be and now you want to dampen your guilty conscience if you do it with your child right away. You may not even be aware of that, but I think it is quite possible.

just keep going on your way, the forum has been cheering me up here for 3 years:)
j.

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answer fromTine1 on September 1st, 2012, 9:02 pm

I had a friend who had her child almost six months after me. At the beginning we were pretty much on the same wavelength: family bed, carrying, weaning the child etc.

Our two children were very restless sleepers. After various advice (pediatrician, sleep and crying clinic) she moved the child out of bed and weaned it when it was still not sleeping better. It must have been a year old then. The situation did not improve; on the contrary, she initially regretted it.

Less than a year later, your child almost slept through the night (waking up all at once). So completely unrelated to weaning and your own bed.

At our first meeting after the suddenly improved sleep (my daughter was still sleeping badly) she wanted to convince me of her method in a very pushy way. I must finally wean now, and that our daughter would still sleep in our bed would not be possible at all. We also need a more structured daily routine, children should go to bed at 7:00 p.m. That is just the way it is, if you put them to bed later, then they would just not sleep well, I would see that ... And the relationship suffers, surely our relationship would soon break. When we would even spend time "as a couple", she wanted to know.

I totally "had" to justify myself. So of course I didn't have to, but she expected it and I felt totally cornered because she was kind of totally pushy and almost aggressive, and I didn't know her at all. Actually, she was always more of a hippie ...

I was so disappointed that I broke off contact with her. Not that she thinks differently was a problem, I also have other friends who think differently and that works wonderfully too. But I find these aggressive attempts at proselytizing really terrible.

By no means do I mean to say that you should break off contact with your girlfriends or anything. The only time I remembered the story was reading your post.

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