The transference relationship, for Parat, "corresponds to the patient's cathexis of the person of the analyst, and is colored by feelings of trust This cathexis is. Transference occurs when we project significant people (often parents) onto others, the pattern projected onto the other person comes from a childhood relationship. where 'father knows best' and the pattern is one of trust and compliance. The terms 'transference' and 'countertransference' have developed a wide use in psychotherapy . in relation to resistance to therapy. . I trust and feel safe.
Initially, this is not likely to be a cognitive process, as the therapist reacts to cues in the client that signal something is different. For instance, a client who has been making great progress may come into the rooms looking washed out and sad, or angry or otherwise unhappy. It is a matter for awareness, not reflection, as the therapist tunes into feelings that come up.
The therapist steps back, disidentifies from the affective reaction and views it more objectively.
The therapist decides how most effectively to use what has been learned Basch, When there is resistance Work with transference in the here-and-now of the therapy room includes sensitising clients to the importance of examining their reactions to the therapist, identifying the self-limiting components of these patterns, and developing an increasingly flexible, mature interaction with the therapist.
That is the theory. Bauer and Mills contend, however, that practice is often far from that. They outline various forms of resistance — both on the part of the therapist and on that of the client — that get in the way. Their discussion, artificially separated between client and therapist forms of resistance, follows. Client-centred resistance Client resistance to transference analysis is a crucial issue in the psychodynamic psychotherapies where transference is central to the work.
Client willingness and ability to examine the client-therapist interaction include some of the following forms of resistance. The process of identifying specific behavior patterns fosters therapeutic gains and client autonomy. Over time, with repeated confrontations, it gets easier for the client to accept and address such themes. Refusal to consider transference as a possibility. Clients often resist exploration and working-through of transference by insisting that their reactions to and interpersonal conflicts with the therapist are based solely on the reality of the therapist: Such a client may insist that all feelings toward the therapist are fully justified by conventional explanations.
An inexpressive, withholding character style, for instance, may be rationalised by attributing it to how threatening the therapist, or the therapeutic environment, is.
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Avoidance of responsibility, fear of autonomy. Therapist resistance In addition to client-centred resistance, there is also resistance engendered by the therapist which contributes to under-analysis of the transference. Avoidance of here-and-now affect. Looking at their emotions in the here-and-now involves affect-heavy, potentially disturbing interactions for both client and therapist.
The reality is that clients, for all their neuroses, sometimes have insightful perceptions of the therapist: It is often more comfortable for the therapist to revert to discussion of historical patterns in the client, and some therapists are so knocked by in-the-room affect that they resort to ego regression and acting-out.
They protect us and tell us what to do. They know many things. They provide a sense of control in our lives. They make us feel safe.
We often transfer as a four- or five-year old child, where 'father knows best' and the pattern is one of trust and compliance. When we regard higher-level leaders e. Male managers in companies often encourage paternal transference by taking on the mantle and behaviors of classic fathers.
They speak with authority. They reassure us that all will be well if we do as they tell us. Maternal transference We develop relationships with our mothers at much earlier dates, and so take on roles of babies more than children.
In our early years in particular, mothers are the source of unconditional love. After the separation of birth, they recreate unity by holding us and making us feel as one. Mothers also are the source of ultimate authority, and the threat of separation is very powerful.
Mothers appear in myth as both the fairy godmother and also the wicked witch, and we often have ambiguous relationships with them. We can also become Oedipal in our desire to be the sole focus of attention of our mothers.
Maternal transference is thus often deeper, with more primitive and emotional elements than paternal transference. Women managers often have excessive expectation put on them that they will nurture their staff, who then become disillusioned when this does not happen hence the manager becomes cast as a witch. This is an increasingly significant pattern as families fracture and mothers spend long hours at work and are often away from the child during the critical early years.
People with preferences for sibling transference work well in horizontal, team-based organizations, as they do not fall into the leader-seeking behaviors of parental transference. This can also lead to greater anarchy as we ignore leaders and work through networks rather than needing a controlling authoritarian hierarchy.
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Bill Clinton was the subject of sibling transference more than other US Presidents. He could thus get away with being the 'naughty older brother' that is secretly admired for his boldness. Other transference We also transfer non-familial patterns onto other people. In fact we invariably treat others not as they are but as we think they are, and often as we think they should be. Thus we form stereotypesand transfer these patterns onto others.