What makes a man masculine

Become more manly 7 ways to awaken the masculine in you

Becoming more manly - one of the most important experiences of my life.

Does that have something to do with muscles, power and macho behavior?

I can promise you:


Because I was never what you would call a really male man from the outside.

I have maybe 3 or 4 chest hairs. I am not particularly sturdy and muscles set in me very slowly. I also still like to spend time in front of the PC today. Even if it's less about gambling and more about working on my projects.


The old definitions of masculinity should be abolished.

I (and thousands of other men) have proven that with their story!

Because despite the lack of masculine macho traits, I have slept with countless women in my life, seduced my dream woman on the way there and built a relationship with her that is filled with passion, closeness, love and adventure.

My buddy Martin and I are the epitome of good male friendship. We have traveled the world and together built a unique company.

Whether hot women, true friendship, financial prosperity, a loving family, good health ...

... no matter which area of ​​life I tackle in my life. My manhood is the key to this happiness.

And not just for me!

But for all men who tread the path of masculinity.

You can find out how to do this in 7 clear to-dos in this article.

Tapping into the primal power of your male power is neither difficult nor complicated. It's more a question of technology. Internalize these 7 natural rules of masculinity and you will live every day with a strong self-confidence, your own life mission and a charisma that of course turns every woman's head.

Table of contents of the article

How do you become more manly?

May I briefly introduce my student self to you: While my roommate Sascha regularly brought new women into the shared apartment and seduced them one after the other, I often sat in front of my PC and smoked pot to myself.

I was able to painfully listen to how Sascha and Marie, Franziska, Annalisa, Leonie, Katrin, Sabrina, Gabi or Bianka were loudly having fun with each other.

And the louder her moaning, the more my heart ached.

One morning, Sascha had just adopted a new woman, the pain in my chest was too great!

I gathered up all my courage and asked him how he does it with women.

His answer:

Well if I see one, I'll go over and flirt with her. After a while we make out and then we go here.

To be honest, I expected more.

Some secret trick. Any special pick-up line.

Fortunately, Sascha was a few years older and already knew exactly what I wanted and what was going on. He looked at me and said the most honest words I had ever heard in my life:

Hey Sven, take a look at you. You spend a lot of time in your room, pulling a joint and hanging in front of the box. You study without vigor and rarely go away. In addition, your posture is bad. Women want men. Men who know what they want. Women want to have fun. And I don't mean playing computer games. Start getting your life right and become more manly. And the next time you come to celebrate.

You can be sure: When you hear such words, you don't have any fun with them at first.

And so I moved back to my room relatively quickly with a first "okay". But those words started a chain reaction that would change my whole life.

Get more manly? You have to do that!

Unfortunately, Sascha moved out of the flat two months after his painful or healing words.

He had the opportunity to fulfill his dream and went to Japan.

However, I couldn't let go of my manhood. In these 2 months alone, Sascha showed me one thing or the other, with which I was able to show immediate success.

And even if Karolin didn't stay by my side for long, she showed me that I was on the right track with my manhood. I tried a lot. Some worked, others were a total failure. But everything strengthened my manhood. The paths that I am showing you here are therefore very closely based on experience.

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Becoming Male - Path # 1: For You. For others. For the world. And exactly in this order!

There are enough people out there who see their life as a plaything of circumstances.

You are driven across the ocean of life like a pilotless ship.

If you drift into sunny climes, you will be happy. Because life means well to them.

But this apparent joy is always steeped in fear. The fear that the current of life might push them against a reef after all.

And it's always sad for me to see how many people don't want to see that the boat of their life is equipped with extremely strong sails.

The sails of responsibility!

Most people prefer to drift through good and bad days.

From day to day.

Week to week.

Month to month.

And year after year.

To …

... yes, until at the end of their life they look back with an "Oh, I would have".

The way to become more masculine is this: Take responsibility!

To you. For others. For the world. And exactly in this order!

Get your life, your areas of life, your manhood in order before you get distracted with the problems of the world. Because these are often the problems of this world. Well-done for your mind, not to concern yourself with your own problems.

Your specific to-do for this route:

Find the area of ​​life in your life for which you have not yet taken responsibility. Maybe you are unsportsmanlike ...

... maybe you are unemployed ...

... maybe you have no success with women ...

... maybe you watch porn every day and clearly suffer from porn addiction.

No matter what it is.

Find the area of ​​life in your life that is the most in the wrong place and agree on a concrete to-do that you do every day.

It can be something like ...

... send an application every day for 7 days ...

... compliment a strange woman every day for 7 days ...

... not watch porn for 7 days every day.

And then go for it!

Getting Manlier - Path # 2: Take your hand out of your pants

Speaking of porn. In my opinion, there is nothing that robs us men of our masculinity as much as jerking off to porn on a regular basis.

So an easy way to get more manly is this: Stop watching porn for a period of time!

Martin has just said a lot about this on YouTube. If you watch these videos you will be scared of the truth about porn. Do you dare to be manly enough to look this truth in the eyes? Then click into this video:

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Your specific to-do for this route:

Stop watching porn for a period of time and be amazed at the positive effects it has on your manhood.

That can be 7 days, a month, three months or a whole year!

It has revolutionized my life not to watch porn for a year.

Getting More Masculine Path # 3: Forgiveness Is More Effective than Retaliation

Hey man! We have all felt sorry for in life. None of us had a life that was paved only with cotton candy and only with the scent of roses. Some people experienced more suffering than others.

I was able to find out what forgiveness really means when I talked to former inmates of Nazi concentration camps.

There were two ways these people dealt with the extreme suffering inflicted on them.

Retribution! Or forgiveness.

I don't want to judge which is the more appropriate way. However, one thing struck me: those who forgave their tormentors lived much happier lives than those who were not forgiven.

What I am breaking down into a few lines cannot possibly represent the truth and the human tragedy of that time.

But here it serves as a metaphor for dealing with the suffering that has been inflicted on you in the past.

The people who have left the most intense imprints on our psychology are our closest relatives. And especially mom, dad, grandma and grandpa.

Often we would have liked to have wished for more love, attention, attention, gentleness or freedom. And often that is exactly what we have not received.

I have not yet met a person or a single man who would be without blame, anger or even hatred of his family members.

Working through these emotions and feelings frees your manhood. It's not about the others! Not about your father. Your mother. Or whoever.

Forgiveness is more effective than retaliation. At least if you want to live a happy life.

And that is your decision alone!

Your concrete to-do for this route:

One way to be forgiven is through understanding. Because we often believe to know the motives of our parents. But in truth we often don't know anything!

When I took the time to talk to my parents and grandparents about their past (especially their childhood), real understanding came first ...

... and then forgiveness came automatically ...

... and then almost automatically an inner feeling of connection with myself, my past and thus my masculinity.

Your To-Do: Talk to a family member (perhaps the one you have the most intense negative emotions around) about their childhood. Ask questions and find out what it was like when they grew up.

Becoming more masculine - path # 4: Courage is not not to be afraid, courage is ...

Courage is not not being afraid, courage is when you jump with her.

One of the biggest mistakes men make with their fear is this one. They believe that if I am not afraid then, I will take action.

This mistake is particularly evident when it comes to addressing women. The men who wait to finally stop being afraid to speak to them are the men who stay alone.

The men who act bravely, even when scared, are those men who get their phone number, ask them out on a date, and take them straight home from the date.

What man do you want to be The one who is watching? Or the one who seduces her?

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Your concrete to-do for this route:

Find something that you are afraid of. The important thing is that you can feel the fear, but are still brave enough to act.


  • Give a woman an honest compliment (you can run away if the woman does show interest in you)
  • Don't watch porn for 7 days (you can watch porn again afterwards if you really want to).
  • Just apply for the job you've always wanted to do (you don't have to do it if it's too daring for you).

Becoming Male - Path # 5: Create More Value Than You Consume

Our western world is more and more shaped by consumption every Christmas. The more you can buy, the wealthier you are.

And the newer the new cell phone, the nicer the car and the bigger the apartment, the more we get with:

This consumption doesn't make us really happy either.

If you want to become more manly and so I tell you in this way ...

... create more value than you use ...

... then I don't just mean that you should create more economic value than you consume. I also mean that you can add value for someone else with your attention and your time.

You will find that happiness is not created through consumption. But by doing good for others.

Your specific to-do for this route:

Invest 1 hour of your time doing something good for others.

Here are a few options:

  • Talk to older family members about their past. And just listen.
  • Invest an hour of your time on a social project. You can find ideas here.
  • Or just search for “doing good” on Google. There you will find many options.

In this video from Martin you will find these and 6 other rules that will advance you and your manhood:

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Becoming more masculine - path # 6: be good to yourself, but ...

Be good to yourself, but do it right! Because with all the focused masculinity, it must not be forgotten what we do all of this for.


We want to feel good!

We want to be good to ourselves!

We use it to create our increased self-esteem.

And with that we become more masculine.

But many men make a decided mistake: They believe that they can finally be good to themselves when they ...

... have enough money in the account ...

... are well trained ...

... have seduced the perfect woman ...

... to then have perfect sex ...

... to then have the perfect life ...

... then to be good to yourself.

Far too often the way there leads through one thing:


Struggle yourself.

Give everything until exhaustion.

Off to burnout.

Only to find out at 65 that you have achieved what you wanted to achieve. Only to find that you have completely forgotten to learn how to be good to yourself.


That is why so many retirees fall into an emotional hole when the driver of work is no longer there.

Being good to yourself is not something that you plan, implement and achieve by fulfilling a socialist plan.

Being good to yourself is something you practice every day.

Exercise is the key here.

And here is your training plan:

Your concrete to-do for this route:

Write down a list of at least 7 things that the outside world can see you do when you are good to yourself.

Here's what I can think of:

  • Long showers for at least 15 minutes
  • Take a walk for at least 2 hours once a week
  • Cook myself a good meal
  • Meet up with good friends at least twice a week
  • Go to a men's workshop once a year 😉
  • Put in one sauna day a month
  • Have a friend give you a nice massage with a happy ending at least once a month.

Now decide on an activity (or more) and be good to yourself for the next month.

You can of course do the whole thing by asking what you CANNOT be seen doing from the outside when you are good to yourself. For example, watch fast food, smoking, and porn. 😉

Becoming Masculine - Path # 7: This Man Makes You Manlier!


That may be. Especially if you've read this far.

But I know a much better man:

Your best buddy!

Because it's amazing how we men become more masculine simply by spending quality time among men.

Whole men's books are being written about the background.

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This power of masculinity is particularly strong when we are working on common goals.


Your concrete to-do for this route:

Find a friend who has a similar goal to yours for this year. And work towards that goal together!

It's not so much about achieving that goal. The likelihood of that happening is much higher anyway than if you tried it as a lone warrior.


It's about spending quality time together among men!

What you do best now to become even more manly

Many roads lead to Rome. It is the same with manhood. If you want to become more manly, I invite you to use the paths of this article to do just that.

It is only now up to you to try out and gain your own experience. A self-determined and manly life is waiting for you.

You will meet many beautiful women along the way. I can promise you that. You just have to walk the path yourself.

About the author:

My name is Sven and I am a male coach. When Martin & I founded Strengthening Masculinity in 2013, we had no idea what kind of revolution we would trigger in the German-speaking world of men.

Today millions of men visit this blog, watch our videos on Youtube or eagerly read our free e-mail training. Hundreds of these men set out every year to rekindle the power of their masculinity in our men’s workshop, Authentic Manhood.

I would be happy to meet you there in person soon.

With male greetings